7 Ways to Make Your Personal Care More of a Priority

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As I sit here coughing up a lung AND despising the germs that are inhabiting my body without permission...I am slowly realizing that I don't dote over myself like I use to. Lately, I have been thinking about my former life.

***fades to flashback***

Once upon a time, there was a young girl by the name of Brittany. She was an athletic girl who loved playing sports, while smelling like she jumped into a pool full of lotion, from the Vanilla Bean Noel collection at Bath and Body Works. Brittany would make sure to shower her beautiful, caramel frame with nothing but the best. From manicures to beauty treatments, she took care of the body that was given to her. However, without notice...life happened and Brittany soon realized that things wouldn't always be the same.

Can you believe this nonsense?! Adulting sucks! Like...truly sucks! The busy-ness of my life has definitely taken over. I have allowed adulting to get in the way of what truly matters the most (Well....second to Papa.☺️). What truly matters is ME! And you wouldn't know that by looking at my schedule in my planner, which so happens to be consumed with the day-to-day requirements of life.

I have allowed myself to delay the time needed to dote over myself because I thought I needed to focus on things that mattered but, could have waited. During those previous seasons of my life, I remember embracing the visible and hidden parts of myself. I took the time to care for my mental, physical, and spiritual being. I made my personal care an intentional deed. No matter what I needed to do for school or work, my personal time always came first. And now that I think about it....prioritizing my self-care made me more confident in who I was because I knew whose I was. Do you get what mean?! Maybe. A little bit. 

But...As of lately, I have been letting myself go!  

You probably think I am messing around, but I ain't! (Yeah...I know "ain't" ain't a word. Lol.) No, but...for real! I really have...If you were to look at me, you would see that my nails look horrible. You would discover that I barely finish a full week of journaling my prayers for cities, family, friends, influencers...in addition to the people, God tells me to cover in prayer or to send words of encouragement. For the past few days, I have felt God leading me to dote over myself again. And realizing that it is okay to devote time for myself. I use to think that spoiling myself was uncalled for and that I didn't need to do it. But I am learning that it is okay to love on yourself. You may think I am weird when I say this....but in my eyes, when you spend time taking care of the body you were given, look at it as a form of worship. Okay...I know. I sound crazy! But....give me a chance to explain. 

Alright, ladies...can you go with me to the book of Romans? And turn to chapter 12? When you find it, write your "Whoop Whoop! 🙌🏾" down below in the comments, then come back. Lol. 

Alright, now that we have found the book of Romans and turned to chapter 12, look at verse 1...

And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him.
— Romans 12:1 NLT

During the times you devote to yourself, you aren't just painting your nails or writing in your journal. You are usually unplugging from the world and the distractions around you. In those undistracted moments, you are shedding the unwanted, renewing your heart, and creating an atmosphere conducive to worship. Get it? Huh...huh? You probably don't realize you are even doing that, but you are! It's time to no longer just stumble in personal care. Let's be more intentional about caring for the vessel God has given us. In order to begin, we must first begin with:


Unplugging from the Distractions

Unplug means (in the Webster Dictionary) to "to refrain from using digital or electronic devices for a period of time". Yes, it will be a challenge. You need to get off of a Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, and whatever else you use that has you wrapped up in everyone's life besides your own. Yeah...I said it. But you know it's true. TV is included in that list too. I hope you know that. Sorry! No...I'm not sorry. I am saying this to you because I make it an intention daily to spend less and less time in front of a screen distracted by people and whatever else that stirs the weak spots of my flesh. You know can't deny, but your flesh is weak. Just try not feed into your weaknesses.


Write Daily Entries in a Journal

Before laying your head down to sleep for the evening, you need to dump all of the triumphs, problems, and emotions you have endured during the day into a journal. It's time to release the weight of what you carry around on a day to day basis. Release those burdens and embrace the lessons you have learned. Also, this is the time when God will definitely begin to quietly nudge at your heart and pull you closer to Him. I encourage you to allow those moments with Him to shape and evolve you. 


Read a Self-Development Book or a Daily Devotional

For the past few weeks, I have been reading ABBA by Dr. Matthew Stevenson, III. When I tell you that I never knew I needed this book until I started reading it! This book has opened my eyes AND my heart tremendously on my identity! Learn from me...Don't knock reading books! There are many authors who have testimonies that portray life-changing stories and their stories help change the lives of those who read their novels. Also, I LOVE devotionals! They are more intentional at penetrating what's within you. Right now, I am working on a devotional with a group of ladies from my church called the Anna Anointing. We are only three days in on this devotional and it has already stirred up my heart, spirit, and mind. I am hungry for more! Like...Devotionals are a powerful tool! If you are looking for a devotional, check out Nearest to One's Heart.


These last few activities are just for fun...

Create a Fun Challenge

Yes, you have read that right. Challenges are fun, especially when it is something that you like doing. Currently, I am challenging myself to pamper myself on a weekly basis. And to hold myself accountable...*sigh* I have to record myself doing it, then post it on YouTube. *the inner introvert screams* My insides are screaming, but I know that it's something I need to push myself. If you want to check my videos, here is my YouTube channel. I will be posting on a weekly basis starting in February.


Listen to Inspirational Music

I don't know about you, but I love music. It has the ability to shift or change your mood for the rest of the day. Because of music's influence in my life, I create playlists of songs that inspire and instill joy or help stir my heart and welcomes a worshipful atmosphere. (I think I have said worship quite a few times in this post. Comment how many times I have used the word "worship" below. 😏) 


Pamper Yourself

That's all that needs to be said...Point➡️ Blank_ Period. 


Have a Private Dance Party

I love these! They are embarrassing when you get caught, but fun none the less. Lol. I have had plenty of private dance parties in my day, especially when I am extremely happy and full of joy. So...don't be afraid to go get your dance on, girl! 

Who is This Girl Looking Back at You in the Mirror

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Unbeknownst to her, Brittany never realized that she would be dumped by the guy who began the journey of depression with her. How could he play with her mind, toy with her heart, abuse her spirit, then...just up and leave?! Didn't he hear her cries of desperation as she shied away from any and everyone?! The cries of her heart wanted her mother to be alive and well again. And he knew that! But life made it extremely clear that her heart's desire would never happen.

Lying still on her bed, Brittany began to replay the events that unfolded the day before. The yelling. The screaming. The tears. The pleas of desperation coming from within could be heard through the thin walls of her apartment bedroom. Brittany's former lover had no interest in being with someone who lived in such a dark state. He told her that he was interested courting another girl. But Brittany knew in her heart that they weren't just getting to know one another, but that they were dating. For goodness sake! Did he think she was that stupid?! She saw that he changed his relationship status on Facebook AND tagged the new girl in it! Everyone knows it's real when you put it on FaceBook. 

Brittany shook her head at the thoughts running through her mind. Yesterday, she saw herself break down in a way that caused her to not recognize who she was. Who had she become? Why can't she ever be loved...the right way? Will she ever find fulfillment? When will the darkness subside? All she wanted was for someone to fill in the gaps of her broken heart. But everyone who tried failed miserably. 

You see...Brittany was in such a dark state that she couldn't look at herself in the mirror. The mirror was her enemy. The mirror revealed the pain behind her eyes. And the tears that escaped...flowing freely down the length of her face. At times, when Brittany glanced in the mirror, she wanted to punch the image before her and shatter it into pieces. Thoughts of why she ever existed ringing in the back of her mind. Why did God bring her so much pain? What did she do to ever deserve this?! Wasn't he her protector? Her Father?

Mirror Snapshot
Through him, we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope and hope does not put us to shame because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
— Romans 5:2-5 ESV

The mirror showed Brittany who she was in that state. It wasn't the mirror that brought her pain...it was herself. Brittany would look in the mirror and wouldn't identify the girl looking back at her. Failing to identify who she was...took Brittany on a long journey to find herself in people and things. On her journey to find herself, Brittany would accidentally pick up spirits, idols, doctrines, beliefs, characteristics, and behaviors that didn't line up with her identity. 

On the day of complete and utter despair, the pain in Brittany's life collapsed on top of her attempting to smother her...and the only thing she could do was to reach how her hand to her Father. The man who was always there quietly waiting. And the same Father who would pull her free from the debris of her life. He knew what she went through and He knew that her identity would only come through Him. Brittany found comfort in her Father's arms. She cried. She yelled. And she expressed her pain to Him in a way that allowed the process of healing to manifest. In her Father's arm, she learned what true love felt like...

As I share a dark place of my past, I want to encourage you to find your identity in God. He loves you. He adores you. I tell you this...You may have endured pain and suffering in your life, but He uses that pain to make you stronger. You are worth more than you could ever imagine. He knew that He wanted you even before you were born from your mother's womb. He marked you as His. And He intends for you to know that for yourself. Allow yourself to find your identity in YOUR Father. The Father who wants to shower you with love. The Father who wants to talk to you about any and everything. He wants you to know that He will cover you, protect you, love you, and provide for you. If you allow Him in. You no longer have to be confused about who you are because you have Father who loves you. Remember that...

Are you ready to find your identity in Him?

Amazing Resources to Help You Cultivate Your Lifestyle Changes

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OMG! Have you ever heard of Lara Casey and Emily Ley? If you haven't you been hiding underneath a rock! Okay...maybe not. Lol.

I came across these amazing women in my search for resources to help me become more productive in...well, EVERYTHING. My friends and family look at me as the creative, visionary, who sees greatness in anything. But...to be quite honest. I am horrible at creating schedules, completing tasks, and staying organized to help me to get things done.

Hey...it's the truth! Lol. And pretty sure many of you could agree with me. 

Last year, I was literally all over the place. I kept forgetting important dates and times. I knew that, in order, for me to make an impact on my lifestyle choices that I had to a adopt some major habits of organization. My life this year is going to keep me on my toes, especially since I am working on my Masters in Nonprofit Administration as a full-time graduate student. *gasp!* If you have been to college, you know that it is the place that will kick your butt into shape whether you want it to or not. Before the semester started, I was determined to kick my own butt into to shape since it is my butt. I'm just saying...

Cultivate What Matters 2018 Powersheets

Let me tell you! Like...all jokes aside. I have successfully used my Cultivate What Matters Powersheets and Simplified Planner for about a week now. In that small time frame, I feel more organized and less stressed than I have ever felt before. I can only image what I will feel like at my mid-year check-in. With my goal planner, I feel like I can accomplish whatever my hearts desire even if I take small, but important baby steps. 

For example, on my tending list, I created small, steps to help me reach my big goals, which are:

  1. Love and embrace who I am.
  2. Intentionally devote time with God.
  3. Radically praise and dance with God.
  4. Use your voice and speak up.

My tending list for the month of January focuses mainly on spending more time with God, using my voice, working out my body (post-meningitis), and relationships. I want my January tending sheets to not overwhelm me, but to encourage me. As you can see, I haven't successfully completed much, but I am working on my goals little by little. 

2018 Powersheets Tending List

Okay...Now. This baby right here goes with me EVERYWHERE. No like, seriously. EVERYWHERE!

My Simplified Planner is my brain! Sometimes, I will admit, that I forget things when I don't have it on me, but it's nice to have a planner that plans out your day by the hour and provides a to-do list for the day. I have been getting so much done in my day! It's crazy! 

Usually...when I have too much on my plate. I forget things and it doesn't get down. *sigh* Yeah...I know. Bad. But I am getting better! My planner allows me to go back and check my list to see what I have completed and what I still need to check off. The unorganized Brittany is in love right now. The organized Brittany is becoming a tad bit addicted. I think you might need to check her into an addiction anonymous clinic. She is getting carried away. Just a tad...

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The Simplified Planner January 2018

I don't know about you, but these resources are a MUST HAVE in your life. You will not regret it! You will discover a whole different side of yourself with these additions in your life.  

What resources are you currently using right now? I would love to check them out! Or if you run your own business that supplies amazing resources, comment below and share with us!