How to Make Lifestyle Changes Like a Boss

How to Make Lifestyle Changes Like a Boss

Transition is hard! Boy...Let me tell you! Living in Chicago is very different than the South. I miss my Southern friends and family members. And seeing a Bojangles on every corner. Oooo! And a CookOut milkshakes. *tears* Lol. But...to quite honest, ever since I've stepped into the state of Illinois, I have been pushed and challenge like never before. 

God has revealed to me that I became complacent in my comfort zone. I allowed myself to embrace my insecurities. I toyed with my fears. I gloried my issues with low self-esteem and comparison. Being in a state of comfort caused me to go about my regular day, as I normally would, without the urge to change the issues lurking behind the scenes. I don't know about you, but I needed to move. It was hard leaving the state I grew up in as a child, but sometimes the hardest transitions paves way for the greatest changes. Like a diamond, the hard journey of beating and pounding caused it to evolve into a strong piece of simmering beauty.

I don't know about you, but sometimes holding onto the atmospheres that make you feel comfortable hold you back from who you were meant to become. Did you know that were never meant to stay in a stagnant place in your life?! God does expose you to people and environments to push you. The pressures of the people and environments were meant to influence change mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. If you stay in a place you weren't meant to be in...will only cause the ultimate plan to be pushed back. You can hinder your grow and your journey to greatness.

Yes, change is hard. But...the place you're in now can't even compare to the place where God will take you, if you just let go and follow Him. Be still. Listen. And follow His lead. Trust me...that's better said then done, especially if you are a planner like me. I have had to learn various hard lessons of learning to trust in God. And have faith in His will. Performing what I believe is right all the time will only put me in place that will cause mourning, mistakes, and constants prayers of forgiveness.

Learn to be still. And embrace your journey of change with God by...


Like a diamond, the hard journey of beating and pounding caused it to evolve into a strong piece of simmering beauty.

Get Out of Your Head!

I'm sorry to tell you this, but the thoughts running through your head were meant to distract you on purpose. Your mind is like a lethal drug. It will latch onto the things that clouds your mind with negativity. Those thoughts running through your mind are tactics used by the enemy to tear you down from the inside out.

I don't know about you, but as a teenager my insecurities were all over the place. I allowed my thoughts to cause more pain in my life by allowing the wrong type of boys into my heart. The boys that entered my life used me, abused me, and toyed with my emotions like a toy.  You want to know what's even more sickening?! I allowed them to mistreat me, because my thoughts told me that I wasn't valuable enough to have a someone who would treat me better. I truly encourage you to get the negative thoughts out of your head telling you the opposite of who you are. You are worth more than you could ever imagine. Remember that...

 

Let Go of Fear.

As I say this to you, I am also speaking to myself. Stop allowing fear to hold you back. Don't worry about what people will say about you. Or if no one will accept you. You weren't meant to be accepted by all. Look at Jesus...they hated him and sentenced Him to a sinner's death. Let go of the things you can't control. You won't embrace the new challenges, if you always have a fear of disappointments.

 

Stop Planning. And Just Live!

It's just that simple. Stop making plans! Learn to live and love life! You have been given the chance to take a new breath of life. I have been on my death bed too many times to count and I am going to live a life full of joy. And I encourage you to do the same. Satan wants to take away your new found joy in life and you can't let him. 

 

Last, But Not Least...Share Your Story. And Encourage Others!

Why not share your story?! Tell others your amazing story. You will never know how your story can help encourage someone who is going through what you have been through. Be a blessing onto others. You were created for a reason. Shed light into the lives of others. 

A Type of Faith That Makes You Believe In The Unseen

A type of faith that makes you believe in the unseen

At midnight, she laid in bed wide awake without an urge to close her eyes to go to sleep. Her body was denied her the time she needed to get some rest. But...apart of her wondered if God was her causing such restlessness, so that she would spend time with Him. With a shrug of her shoulder, she thought to herself, "I guess God wants me to spend time with Him. I'm sure He already knows what's bothering me. What harm will it do to spend time with Him?".

Rolling over onto her stomach to get more comfortable, she began the conversation as she normally does with her Father...by recognizing His presence. She discussed her typical day with Him from everything that got on her nerves to the things that troubled her spirit. In this short discussion, God was able to speak to her and open her eyes about things she would have NEVER understood with a human eye. 

As the conversation progressed, she began to dig deeper in her conversation with God. You see...this young lady has had a long standing relationship with her Father in Heaven. He has taken her through rough patches in her life and made her stronger, which ultimately grew her faith in Him. This season of her life has been tremendously hard on her. For the past four years, she has endured hospital stays, various medications, CT scans, MRIs, doctors claiming she has to live the rest of life with life-threatening conditions, learning to walk again due to a case of meningitis, moving to a new city, being stretched in her faith, and discovering who she truly is. As endured all of these life changes, she figured that God would come in like a rushing wind and change her current situation around. But...it didn't quite happen the way she thought it would. 

The experiences in her life caused her to second guess her faith in the unseen. To a point, where she would believe up to a certain point about things that were prophesied over her or believing in things going in a positive direction in her life. She knew, in her heart, that God loved her and had a big mission for her, but a part of a believed that God brought her these issues and that He would eventually take them away when He felt like it. In conversations with her Father, she would discuss her desires and ambitions. One of the highly discussed desires was...her being able to dance again. You see...this young lady worshipped the Lord through dance. Dancing is what helped her pressed forward despite being sick with Lemierre's Disease a little over four years ago. She caressed the moments she was able to spend time with God through dance, because it brought her closer to the one who provided her comfort from the pains of her life. 


Your faith will help drive you forward, my child.

On this night, God knew that He needed to speak to her about the things that troubled her. He knew that His daughter avoided the hard stuff on purpose. She hated feeling vulnerable and weak. And that's something He wanted her to understand is what gives her strength. God patiently wanted on His daughter to express the troubles of her heart. Slowly...but the surely the young woman began to express everything that was bothering her to God. She began to talk about missing North Carolina, feeling like a outcast in a world that's doesn't understand her, and the issues of her body. God revealed to her that she needed to leave North Carolina in order to grow in her faith and learn to lean on God and God alone. The young lady understood all of this, but she couldn't see herself getting to a place where she could just believe in what wasn't in front of her. Well...a part of it was due to her being extremely nosey and impatient. God needed her to stop looking at the things at the naked eye and look at them the way He sees them. She closed her eyes and allowed God to show her in a new light...completely healed all of infirmities, living a fearless life Him, and walking with her head held high in confidence. 

He encouraged her to grab a hold of this knowledge soon, because her journey would get tough mentally, physically, and emotionally. For a moment, she laid quietly in bed as she allowed God's previous revelation to sink in. Thoughts began to run rapidly in her mind as she pondered how much life would change if she decided to let go of the wheel, believe in the invisible, have peace in God, and move forward despite the issues of her past that were currently present in her day to day life. She cried and asked, "But God! How can I do this?! I don't know how to do this alone! You have to help me!" The changes in her life have been overwhelming since day one. How could she live up to God's expectations?! She didn't even know where she was headed! Why would God use her to help others who are lost and looking for strength in the unknown?! Who would listen to a girl who struggles believing in her own healing and has issues of low self-esteem?!

Uncontrollable tears began to take over her body. As she cried, she could feel her heart cry out. She tried to control her tears, but she caved allowed her heart say silent prayer filled with pain, fear, frustration, and urgency. The room was quiet for a few moments as the young women cried. Her Father, who was nearby, quietly consoled her. As her tears subsided, God encouraged her to just lean on Him. He told her to stop running away from the hardships of her life, stop believing in the things people speak over her, and stop allowing the enemy to make her believe that she lacks value. He told her that He has always been there for her, even when the enemy tried to do things that were meant to bring evil in her life. For a moment, her Father told her to close her eyes. God wanted to show her that He has always been there for her piecing things together to would make her stronger, wiser, bolder, and capable of performing the works of the kingdom for Him. 

He told that she didn't have to do it alone, because she has a Father who is with her at all times, but she has to believe Him, have faith in the unseen, let go of what the world thinks you should do and step out in faith. As her father lulled her to sleep, He told her that her faith in the unseen it what will continue to give her the strength to press forward and ignore what is going on around her. He told her to be aware of distracts from the enemy. When you fact those moments, remember who you are and whose you are. Your faith will help drive you forward, my child.

How to Accomplish a Totally Twisted Twist Out

How to Accomplish a Totally Twisted Twist Out

Hi, guys! 

Where have I been?! Well...you see. What had happened was...

Okay. Okay. Recently, I had the opportunity to become a Life Sciences High School Teacher and...basically, it took over my ENTIRE life....until now. 

I missed my blog and being able to write. So I made myself come back despite being overwhelmed as a full-time teacher.

Enough of the small talk! Let's talk about how amazing my twist out turned out.

If you haven't guessed it, I have a head full of 4a/4b kinky curly hair. My hair and I have a love-hate relationship. I love the fullness and thickness of it, but I hate how my hair struggles to maintain a healthy state of moisture. And moving here to Chicago has put my hair on the struggle bus with maintaining any type of moisture. 

As of recently, I have been testing and trying out new hair products. My most recent experiment involved Alikay Naturals. While shopping at Target, I saw this product and I knew I needed to try it out. I figured where could I go wrong with trying out these products?! Here's my reasoning: They contain natural ingredients. Good! They are extremely affordable. Great! And they smell like candy! Shut up! No Way! Where could I go wrong with products that smell like Jolly Ranchers?!

CoWash Me Cleansing Conditioner

You will probably see this a lot, but this product smells A-MA-ZING! It truly smells like candy. I love the thickness of this conditioner. With thin conditioners, my hair sucks up the conditioner and will not feel moisturized. This conditioner is the total opposite. My hair sucked up this product. This conditioner did not just sit on top of my hair, like thick conditioners I have used in the past. It actually penetrated the hair follicle. The only thing I did not like was that I had to use more than a quarter size portion, for my hair, due to density. My hair is thick, ya'll! Like Celie from The Color Purple thick.

One thing to keep in mind...this conditioner has no slip. I would strongly recommend that you do not detangle while using this product. I would use this product for weekly washes and to replenish moisture back into your hair. 

Alikay Naturals Cowash Me Cleansing Conditioner
Washing 4a/4b Hair
Alikay Conditioner

Lemongrass Leave-in Conditioner

OMG! This has got to my favorite conditioner from Alikay Naturals. I know that I will definitely keep this in my hair cabinet. 

Like the rest of the product line, it smells like Jolly Ranchers. By the time you finish this post, you will probably start singing..."Candy girl! You are my world. You look so sweet..." Lol.

Oh....yeah, right...the product. The lemongrass leave-in conditioner comes in a liquid form. I was kinda skeptical of this product when I picked up it from the shelf, but I decided to give it a try. Girl! Let me tell you! This product is not only moisturizing, but it is full of so many amazing ingredients that will make your hair feel extremely soft. When you spray it, the nozzle on the bottle allows the product to cover a pretty good dimension of your hair. I love that you don't have to saturate your hair to get enough product out.

 

Essential 17 Hair Growth Oil

Wait?! This is my favorite product too! I love this oil! The oils within this bottle satisfy my hair's demands to be satisfied by heavy oils. Oh! This is the only product from the line that does not smell like candy (for those who may like the smell).

 

Shea Yogurt Hair Moisturizer

Can you have multiple products that you love?! Yes? Good! I love this moisturizer. Due to the porosity of my hair, I have to do the LOC method to retain moisture. When I put this product on top of the leave-in conditioner and oil, it made my hair feel like butter. Like...for real...Smooth and silky. Oh! A little goes a L-O-N-G way. Remember this when you use the product on your hair. 

Alikay Naturals Lemongrass Leave-in Conditioner
Alikay Naturals Essential 17 Hair Growth Oil
Alikay Naturals Shea Yogurt Hair Moisturizer
Alikay Naturals and Twists on 4a/4b hair

My hair was super defined and shiny before taking my twist down the next morning. I love that my hair didn't take forever to dry. Previous products that I have used required me to saturate my hair with the product, thus taking forever for my hair to dry. 

One thing that I can say is...that I will most definitely be buying this product again in the near future. Alikay Naturals reminds me of the time when I was at the beginning stages of being natural. I loved being natural in the beginning stages because I was able to fall in love with my hair and experiment with new hair products. Just an FYI. Y'all might want to go get your products before I buy the last bottle on the shelf at your local Target. Lol. 

An Orange-y Twist Out
OOTD with Twist Out

What are your favorite hair care products?